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OnMyOwn2   in reply to Jme1   on

The VANISHING FATHER

Don't give up no matter what...but...do keep your job. Do what it takes to prioritize -I know that is so hard but your daughter will need you for a lifetime and you her...and you must take care of yourself so that you can take care of her. Work on getting a back up - e.g. baby sitter, friend, or something that you can gently introduce as a part of your support system that might be able to help when your ex is late picking her up or does not pick her up from school or somewhere else - you will need this network for a lifetime as well. If you don't have one, you might consider joining a church or other community type activity - charity - or something so that you can become a part of something larger for you, for her and thus plug into a network that you support and can support you and her. A solid network again you will need for a lifetime and people out there - community - needs you too. You and she could do things together, building the extended family and network together. - My father gave up because of a difficult mother and this has impacted my my whole life. It effects my confidence, the way I related to people, and even though I know it was not my fault, I have tremendous guilt and wonder everyday what might have been had I had his support, even sometimes. Daughters get ingrained in their heads that they are somehow less than the other kids that have fathers who are involved - that is the way it is and in the school yard, it's brutal - its a measure of status that sticks with you all the way thru that you have to work double time to fit in.

Don't give up - pray, even if you never have...just do it and take one day at a time. Love is powerful thing and is meant for one day at a time, building for a lifetime. And, someday you will be old, we all will, and when those days come, you will need her in more ways that you can imagine - not for "cares" sake but for the love :) - Finally, remember, she is gift...you are gift to each other and its worth fighting for. She will learn about love, relationships - the right way - thru u...she will look to u for these lessons...take the opportunity no matter how challenging.

God Bless and Good Luck.
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